What if?

What if?

Today I want to talk to you about what-ifs. And coulda-beens, woulda-beens, shoulda-beens.

All phrases tinged with regret and a modicum of sadness.

That is NOT for me. Nope. All the nope. I want to get to 150 (why yes, I’m planning on living till at LEAST 150, what of it?) and regret the things I have done, not the things I haven’t. I’m known as something of an impulsive person. On the day I changed my name, I messaged two of my best friends, to tell them the news – “guess what I did today?”
One replied “Should I be concerned at all?” while the other simply said “Oh dear God.” My reputation clearly goes before me. (And often comes back shaking its head in disgust, but that’s another blog post entirely!)

Almost all of my tattoos, including my first, were spontaneous decisions. In the case of my wrist tattoos, I literally woke up one Saturday last summer and thought “Hmm I want new ink today”. Rang the shop to book in for one tattoo and by the time I arrived at the appointment, I had decided I wanted not one, but two.

When put together, “what” and “if” are the saddest, meekest little phrase. I don’t want to die wondering.

So what if I do something and it goes wrong? So, it doesn’t work out the way I expected or hoped. At least I’ve tried. At least I’m not left wondering. Doing SOMETHING is always better than doing nothing. If your something turns out to be the wrong thing, try something else – life truly is for living.

Life is short. Really short. REALLY. Fucking. Short. Grab it. Embrace it – seize every opportunity, every chance and every possibility with both hands and an open mind.

I’m almost 50 and I can honestly say that I am still finding out who I am and why I’m here. I’m finally realising what my purpose is and I’m loving the discovery!

Just take a moment to consider – what are you going to do with your precious, short life? What can you do today that will make you smile when you look back 10,20,30 years from now?

Go make yourself some memories. Some might make you cringe but that’s way better than being left to wonder “what if?”

What if?


20th June 2015 at 3:47 pm

Wow- brilliant words!
My friends and I call this the “fuck it, why not?!” attitude and it’s something we try to embrace as often as possible. Wonderful blog post hon, really positive to read 🙂

Lovelustloves x0

    Daisy Hollands
    20th June 2015 at 4:21 pm

    Thank you so much. This attitude has served me well, it;s great to hear other people are really embracing their “now” too – it’s all we’ve got really. xx

22nd June 2015 at 1:32 pm

Seriously yes, I love this post. I learned the hard way that we don’t have forever so I am passionate about making those memories now. Also the last few years I have done things I would have never done before, life is way to short.

    Daisy Hollands
    22nd June 2015 at 1:50 pm

    Thank you Sara. It’s a human failing, I think that we wait for life to pull us up short before we start REALLY living. None of us are promised tomorrow – we literally have nothing more than the present moment. Hold on tight and enjoy the ride 🙂 xx

22nd June 2015 at 10:30 pm

I love this! And actually it was a read that I really needed tonight. I feel like I should print it out so that I am able to see it more! I definitely take some of my days for granted and that’s actually really sad. Thank you again for linking with #WMBlogChat x

    Daisy Hollands
    22nd June 2015 at 10:34 pm

    I’m so glad – this post really comes from the heart and if it makes anyone just stop and think for even a moment, all the better. I want everyone to live their best lives and for that, sometimes you just have to step up, step out, step forward. Even if it’s baby steps, it’s still steps! I’m enjoying being a proud West Midlands Blogger. One fine day I’ll work out how to get the logo somewhere a bit more prominent! #WMBlogChat x

28th June 2015 at 8:07 pm

Fuck to the yes! I love this post. There’s nothing like a near death experience (in my case) to make you realise life can be taken away in a heartbeat. Literally. xx

8th July 2015 at 5:59 pm

Wow, really thought provoking that!
Loved the quote at the end ^^)

27th October 2015 at 7:30 pm

wow! This is soooo deep! #inspired #motivated #encouraged

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