Secrets and Lies



I’m writing this because I am being smeared on social media – and I know that what is being said privately is much worse than is being said publicly.

I’m writing this because I had offered a donation to a charity (that was minimum £25 and could have gone up to around £250 depending on sales) – which was welcomed when offered, but then refused once a certain person had started to spread poison about me.

I’m writing this because I have been accused of lying, of being hurtful and unkind, because the person in question has looked at my tweets and decided they are about her or aimed at her and yes, *some* of them are – happy now? But the fact that she recognises that, means she knows that they are based on truth,

She is full of fake concern for my “hurting” and “demons”, yet proceeds to besmirch me for my “lies”


My turn to have my say – and I don’t think she’s going to like it. And after this, a few of you may not like me, but this is my truth.

I fell in love. Yes, with someone else’s boyfriend. But…it was mutual, he said. He would leave her, he said. We would have a life together, he said.

I know she thinks I was just trying to “steal away her most precious possession” – imagine that? Describing your lover as a *possession*. That’s not how it happened. We were friends and we fell in love. It wasn’t planned, we both fought it and then gave in to the feelings.  He told me he loved me in a way he had never loved anyone before. That he had settled for a relationship that was based on “warm companionship” – not love. That he would be ending that relationship just as soon as he could “unpick the complicated financial entanglement”.

I know she doesn’t WANT to believe this, but every word is true. I can back up everything I’m saying with texts, emails, receipts from hotel rooms we stayed in…this was no casual thing, we talked about marriage. He met my children, more than once. He was well known to my colleagues and friends. Equally some of HIS friends knew about us and were delighted that we had found happiness in each other.

In the end, I walked away. I couldn’t continue to live half a life and it became painfully apparent that he was too much of a coward to leave her. Turns out he’s not the person I thought he was. The person I was in love with doesn’t actually exist. OR is perhaps just too beaten down and controlled to be himself.

I’ve said this before – and I’m saying it openly, not “text me, email me” which is secretive and furtive – openly – just ask me, I haven’t lied and I won’t.


20th March 2015 at 11:27 pm

Now the tweets make more sense! I am sorry you are going through this, and I hope that things ease up as weeks go by. Hugs x

Strong women unite
23rd December 2016 at 1:35 am

Did he make her out to be controlling his finances? She was boring? Controlling him? Made him run around after her and he didn’t love her, like he loved you?

I don’t know how I found this blog but I certainly know who he is, you’re in the gang, one of many. Probably at the same time as me, judging by the date. I was stupid to go back to him. after all his relationship is based on lies, especially after he fucked me a few weeks after they got together in 2012 but then again, he probably told you I was mad too.

Did she block you on twitter too? Trying to block out the truth of what her scummy boyfriend does.

Were you vulnerable? Wanted something else?

We’ll bring him down. Eventually.

Much love from another woman with her own mind x

    Daisy Hollands
    23rd December 2016 at 11:02 am

    Wow. I always suspected I wasn’t the only one. Equally comforting and yet horrifying to have it confirmed. The answer to all your questions is yes. Aside from him telling me you were mad… he may have done, but I don’t know who you are, although your story is frighteningly familiar. Took me so long to get over the hurt he caused. I’m in a much better place now and hope you are too. xxx

Strong women unite
23rd December 2016 at 12:20 pm

It is horrifying especially because he makes you feel special. I’m 12 months clean now and moved on for the better, he doesn’t like successful, happy women.

Love and best wishes xxx

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