Plus Size Promise
There are a whole bunch of awesome plus sized bloggers making promises to themselves today, with Katt leading the way and Debz marshalling us all. I’ll list their blogs at the end – please find time to check out each and every one. My promise to YOU is that it’ll be a worthwhile while way of spending your time.
So, what am I promising myself for the summer?
1. I will not should myself.
I’m going to trust my own instincts and do what I feel is right for me, not what others think I SHOULD be doing. You know that little nagging gut feeling you get when something doesn’t feel quite right, quite you? Listen to it. Tune into yourself. No-one knows me better than I do. I’m going to trust myself more.
2. I will remember that self-care is not selfish.
There is a bit of a negative vibe in my corner of our community lately. It’s no-one in particular’s fault, I don’t know if it’s the cycle of the moon, something in the air, something in the water – I don’t know what is causing it, but a lot of us are out of sorts. Some of us have health issues; some of us have family problems; job loss; trolltastic fools; life changes – we all seem to be fighting a hard battle.
I know I need to be kind to myself. Rest when I need to. Ask for help when I need it. Worry about the things I can change, not the things I can’t. Let it go. Breathe. I see lots of people putting themselves last on their list and it’s a vicious circle.
Self-care. It’s not selfish, it’s essential.
3. I will stop arguing with idiots on the Internet.
I don’t know why I do it, but I can’t seem to walk away. If someone has a pop, (particularly a weight-related jibe) I just have to have a pop back. I can’t help myself. I try not to lower myself to their standards of flinging insults around, I try to be measured and to deflect their criticism with facts and reasoning.
Why am I wasting my time? I certainly haven’t and wouldn’t change any of my beliefs and values following a spat with a keyboard warrior – why do I assume I’m going to make them see things differently? I shall continue to live my life happily, contentedly and let the haters hate. If the thought of a confident fat woman, comfortable in her skin upsets them so much, they have bigger issues than I can be bothered to address.
4. I will wear exactly what I like.
No change here really. I dress for me, no-one else. I wear clothes that I am comfortable in – things that make me feel good. Dresses that make me feel sexy and alive. Lots of flesh on display? Good! Visible belly outline? All bought and paid for. Ass accentuated? Lucky you, my ass is amazing.
A recent favourite meme, which I intend to use a LOT over the coming months (and no, replying with a meme is NOT the same as arguing) is this:
And last but by absolutely no means, least:
5. I promise I will be more me.
This is the most important promise. I want to be real. I want to be authentic. I don’t like fake and I certainly don’t want to be anything I’m not. I will be true to myself. I won’t say yes when I mean no, I will not hide my emotions, I will not deny my feelings.
As previously mentioned, a lot of us are dealing with a whole heap of crap every day. Acknowledge those feelings. FEEL them. If we push the feelings down, stifle them, deny them, eventually they will choke us. Feel the pain. Talk about it. Breathe through it. It’s the only way to overcome it, it’s the only way to get better. Be who you are. Own it. Live it. What makes you, YOU is so special and unique and valuable. Don’t let anyone ever tell you otherwise.
I promise I will be more me and I will love myself every step of the way.
Please go check out some more promises and promise yourselves something good while you’re at it. This shit matters. You matter.
Katt – www.acurvycupcake.com
Debz – www.wannabeprincess.co.uk
Hayley – www.Curvesncurlsuk.blogspot.co.uk
Vicky – http://therandomnessoftwee.blogspot.co.uk/
Kitty – http://kittyramblesalot.blogspot.co.uk
Kitty Kaos – www.Adventuresofariotgrrrl.com
Vicky – http://www.thecurvedopinion.com
Kathryn – www.misskathrynsmisstakes.co.uk
Sarah – www.plussizeproud.co.uk
Becky – Bixxboxxbitsbox.wordpress.com
Kerry-Ann – http://voluptuouschatterbox.blogspot.co.uk/
Leah – www.justmeleah.co.uk
Charli – http://curvygirlthin.blogspot.co.uk
Filipa – http://uniquelyfilipa.blogspot.pt
Kathryn – www.murderofgoths.co.uk